tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post4478566607489809151..comments2024-03-25T10:28:53.317-05:00Comments on Baking in a Tornado: Love You Like Crazy: Secret Subject SwapKaren BakingInATornadohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04908944310611937600noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-33690648234676054932019-05-19T20:29:23.536-05:002019-05-19T20:29:23.536-05:00I think although I hadn't thought of it in ter...I think although I hadn't thought of it in terms of a desperately sick child, much of this question fed into related issues I'd had to face. That set me on the path of being able to answer as best I could. No one really knows what they can or can't do until (or unless) they end up in a situation they never thought they'd be in.Karen BakingInATornadohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04908944310611937600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-14553749177680813682019-05-19T20:25:27.477-05:002019-05-19T20:25:27.477-05:00I honestly have no idea how to even begin to answe...I honestly have no idea how to even begin to answer this question for myself especially considering I almost died having my one child. Props to you for handling it so well. It was a well thought out and impressive answer. Jenniy Frenchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04902332589392779881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-87332147862957416162019-05-16T20:21:56.156-05:002019-05-16T20:21:56.156-05:00Yes, so many issues: physical, emotional, financia...Yes, so many issues: physical, emotional, financial and ethical. We used all of our embryos, ended clean so we were lucky not to have to deal with that issue. My friend had a baby via IVF, then had triplets. She still had embryos frozen and ended up deciding to donate them.Karen BakingInATornadohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04908944310611937600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-87152555359584747052019-05-16T20:17:19.634-05:002019-05-16T20:17:19.634-05:00Such a tough prompt and you handled it so well. We...Such a tough prompt and you handled it so well. We did IVF and were lucky but also scared. We couldn’t hAve more and gears arise with that. What do you do with leftover fertilized embryos? So many ethical issues. Enthusiastic Bookwormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12989385340994756602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-30333590258678707622019-05-12T10:04:28.672-05:002019-05-12T10:04:28.672-05:00So much thought required, not just in making the d...So much thought required, not just in making the decision, but in living with whatever the consequences may be.<br />Karen BakingInATornadohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04908944310611937600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-41630812634048206292019-05-12T08:12:45.222-05:002019-05-12T08:12:45.222-05:00Fascinating question you pose, Karen. I'm not...Fascinating question you pose, Karen. I'm not sure how to answer this question but I do believe that people should look into their heart and figure out what's best. Leave out the bumper sticker approach to convincing everyone else of their decisions.Trin Carlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01649273594176899623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-22880983389907537262019-05-11T19:08:03.318-05:002019-05-11T19:08:03.318-05:00Thank you for your kind words, Carol.
Thank you for your kind words, Carol.<br />Karen BakingInATornadohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04908944310611937600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-28692433401320367792019-05-11T18:49:02.812-05:002019-05-11T18:49:02.812-05:00You answered this question beautifully and with a ...You answered this question beautifully and with a lot of thought. In writing this, I am sure you had to reflect on a lot of pain. Thank you so much for sharing.Carol Grahamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16636572823921110416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-5588495821980399852019-05-10T20:34:38.140-05:002019-05-10T20:34:38.140-05:00Definitely a very painful and difficult situation ...Definitely a very painful and difficult situation to be in.Karen BakingInATornadohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04908944310611937600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-4851607389598919992019-05-10T20:32:53.211-05:002019-05-10T20:32:53.211-05:00Such a difficult question I do not know what I wou...Such a difficult question I do not know what I would do and I am thankful I will never knowJo-Anne's Ramblingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11418152399382818709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-65951760502086864812019-05-10T16:15:58.418-05:002019-05-10T16:15:58.418-05:00We agree.We agree.Karen BakingInATornadohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04908944310611937600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-3822704881961236532019-05-10T14:13:15.583-05:002019-05-10T14:13:15.583-05:00Love how you looked at all the angles on this subj...Love how you looked at all the angles on this subject. And to answer the question, I give a resounding YES.menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-38852820828273696022019-05-10T13:52:14.639-05:002019-05-10T13:52:14.639-05:00I agree, it's an incredibly difficult situatio...I agree, it's an incredibly difficult situation but sadly it does happen.<br />Karen BakingInATornadohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04908944310611937600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-90794268615621898682019-05-10T13:41:57.881-05:002019-05-10T13:41:57.881-05:00Hmmm...what a difficult decision. I think I would....Hmmm...what a difficult decision. I think I would. But I would also love that next child for themself. The hardest thing for me would be that then I would have two children hurting. Which would finish me off completely. I don't handle others' sickness well at all. Especially when it's a child. Diane Stringam Tolleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09629946536985545457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-28894756731915366892019-05-10T11:57:41.055-05:002019-05-10T11:57:41.055-05:00So very true, Alana. I learned from my in vitro ex...So very true, Alana. I learned from my in vitro experiences that what you think through in your head rationally, those lines that you draw, are often vastly different when you're in that position for real.Karen BakingInATornadohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04908944310611937600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-87530718349538612342019-05-10T11:56:28.983-05:002019-05-10T11:56:28.983-05:00It often shocks me, with my blogging friends, how ...It often shocks me, with my blogging friends, how much we have in common that we never would have possibly guessed. I'm going to need to hear your story at some point. I'll be in touch.Karen BakingInATornadohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04908944310611937600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-60229238542652294882019-05-10T11:55:13.066-05:002019-05-10T11:55:13.066-05:00YES, they can. They're within an hour from me ...YES, they can. They're within an hour from me (well, for now).Karen BakingInATornadohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04908944310611937600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-55515310442173464222019-05-10T11:50:36.453-05:002019-05-10T11:50:36.453-05:00Karen, knowing someone, an adult, who was saved li...Karen, knowing someone, an adult, who was saved like this (through her brother) and also being an only child and the mother of an only child- I don’t know. I honestly don’t know. And I wouldn’t know until it happened to me. AAlanahttp://ramblinwitham.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-64421386121523229022019-05-10T11:37:51.512-05:002019-05-10T11:37:51.512-05:00You know we've talked before about having so m...You know we've talked before about having so much in common especially with our kids. We've talked about the difficulties of our first sons, but I had no idea that your son was a twin and the other didn't survive. I. WENT. THROUGH. THE. SAME. THING! My oldest son was a twin and the other didn't survive. The only difference is mine was a daughter. We named her Samantha! I wonder if that in any way affected them. Renahttp://wanderingwebdesigner.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199397575911294318.post-44901825486321770642019-05-10T11:37:06.360-05:002019-05-10T11:37:06.360-05:00Phew, you approached this delicate topic with some...Phew, you approached this delicate topic with some serious thoughts and did a great job. I saw a documentary about several families in this situation. Interestingly they were exactly in the spot you describe: they were out of "just trying" and spent a lot of money to be able to pay for IVF month after month. It was heartbreaking. And as you say, they couldn't even be sure the baby they'd potentially conceive, would even be a match. <br />Hug your boys the next opportunity you have! I guess they can't come home for Mother's Day - or can they???Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06945984135731336978noreply@blogger.com