And yet when it comes to terms that we all acknowledge are abusive, I have such a hard time reconciling the fact that often I hear people at whom these words are targeted being enraged at their use, yet comfortable using them. Like the words have ownership.
We spoke about intent. It’s possible to use words with the intent of hurting and, on the flip side, to innocently use words or sayings you don’t think are hurtful but which can nonetheless cause pain. I’m less apt to be angry if I know the intent to harm wasn’t there.
On this Fourth of July, I started thinking about words that you hear thrown around a lot this time of year; what they mean to me and what they might mean to others. So I chose eight people and I asked them two simple questions. First, I asked them to tell me what “independence” means. It could be to them specifically or in a more general way and it doesn’t need to be in reference to the 4th of July. They could give me a word or a dissertation, I just wanted a sense of what comes to mind. Then I asked the same eight people to do the same with the word “freedom”. I have to say that I love every one of these answers. They’re age appropriate, they’re thoughtful and they’re timeless.
*Child: Fireworks. Pretty colors and loud bangs and booms.
*Child: The Statue of Liberty. It guards us and makes us remember to be free.
*Teen: Not having to discuss every decision as I make it.
*Teen: Being able to be part of making the rules, not just having to live by them.
*Young Adult: It means that I am the boss of me and we are the bosses of us.
*Young Adult: Knowing that no matter what happens around me, I can depend on me and know that’s a good place to start.
*Adult: Being able to engage at all levels.
*Adult: Standing on your own two feet.
*Child: I can do whatever I want. Because I’m free.
*Child: No bed time. I can stay up as late as I want. No naps either.
*Teen: Finally having my own car. It makes more of the world mine and I’m free to explore it.
*Teen: Learning as I go.
*Young Adult: You need money to be free and you need to be free to make money.
*Young Adult: Living without fear.
*Adult: Making my own choices. It’s not like I don’t have responsibilities and obligations, but even then I get to decide how to fulfill them.
*Adult: The ability to chase my dream. And to change it.
Baked Individual Pancake Puffs
Let Freedom ring.
Baked Individual Pancake Puffs©www.BakingInATornado.com
1 cup milk
1 TBSP orange juice
1 cup plus 1 TBSP flour
1/2 tsp salt
1/2 tsp cinnamon
¼ tsp nutmeg
6 thin slices of butter
Approximately 1 cup of Berry Syrup, room temperature
NOTE: Berry Syrup recipe here: http://www.bakinginatornado.com/2014/06/all-aboard.html
Opt: Powdered sugar to sprinkle on top
*Preheat oven to 400 degrees.
*Spray your muffin tins with cooking spray.
*Put 1/2 slice of butter in each muffin tin.
*Whisk eggs. Whisk in milk and orange juice, then the flour, salt, cinnamon, and nutmeg.
*Put the muffin tin into the preheated oven and leave just until the butter melts.
*Take muffin tin out and move the pan around a bit to swirl the butter around in the bottom of the tins.
*Quickly fill each of the muffin tins just past half full with the batter.
*Bake for 25 minutes. *DO NOT OPEN OVEN at all during cooking.
* Remove from muffin tins, spoon Berry Syrup over the top and sprinkle with powdered sugar.