Friday, March 17, 2023

Relationships in Motion: Use Your Words

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Today’s post is a monthly writing challenge. If you’re new here, this is how it works: participating bloggers picked 4 – 6 words or short phrases for someone else to craft into a post. All words must be used at least once. All of the posts will be unique as each writer has received their own set of words. That’s the challenge, here’s a fun twist; no one who’s  participating knows who got their words and in what direction the recipient will take them. Until now.

At the end of this post you’ll find links to the other blogs featuring this challenge. Check them all out, see what words they got and how they used them. 

I'm using:  hammer ~ relationship ~ soldier ~ cantankerous ~ simplistic ~ hope 
They were submitted by Jenniy of Climaxed.

A lot of people are bringing the hammer down on relationships. And, actually, I get it. There often comes a time when you just have to accept that it isn't working, when you feel that the energy you've invested is not reciprocated.

Not that relationships are ever perfectly balanced. They can't be. But when they work, both parties have to feel that they are valued, that when they are the one in need, that connection will come through. Provide that little jolt of sugar needed to feed your soul.

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Peanut Butter Cream Cheese Cookies

I understand that maintenance is required. And it's incumbent on me to be proactive in providing it when I see the signs. In general, I try to give, not just when I'm asked, I acknowledge that reaching out in need can be hard to do, but to be open to perceiving a need, and just jump in. Because there are times when anyone can be impatient, cantankerous, just won't budge. And when it's me, reciprocation allows us both to move forward, soldier on. When one party takes their foot off the gas, someone's got to provide the propulsion.

I also just have to say here, that I'm not a person who walks around with my hand out. I try, as much as I can, to be independent, not a needy person. So when I do reach out, I mean it. I know this seems simplistic, but for me, a healthy balance follows along the lines of "The Golden Rule." I expect offered to me the same level of support I myself try to offer.

And I hope that I've got enough money in that relationship bank to have earned whatever it is that I need.

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Sometimes, though, it turns out that I don't. And in those times, a lot of introspection is required. Is this worth the amount of effort I expend? If the result is that I have nothing to depend on, it's just not healthy for me.

That's pretty much where I am now. If I need you to step on the gas, hit the road running, firing on all cylinders? It's not the time for your tires to be flat, your battery running low, for all you have to offer is just idling at the curb.

As hard as it may be to let go of a relationship in which time and energy have been invested, memories abound, dependence, and yes, even love are components, I now understand that I need to move on.

Because there are things I need from this relationship, and going places is one of them.

So I'm just going to have to look for a new car. 


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Here are links to all the other Use Your Words posts:

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Peanut Butter Cream Cheese Cookies

6 TBSP butter, softened
4 oz cream cheese, softened
2 TBSP crunchy peanut butter
1 egg
1 cup flour
1/4 cup powdered sugar
1/4 cup mini Reese's cups, quartered
1/4 cup Reese's pieces, halved
1/8 cup cream cheese baking chips

*Beat the butter, cream cheese, and peanut butter, then beat in the egg. Slowly beat in the flour and powdered sugar. Mix in the Reese's cups, Reese's pieces, and cream cheese baking chips. Wrap in plastic wrap and refrigerate for an hour.
*Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Line baking sheets with parchment paper.
*Roll dough into 24 balls. Place on the baking sheets and flatten slightly.
*Bake for 15 minutes. Cool for 2 minutes on the baking sheet before removing to cool completely.



  1. Let the butter fly and find a new car, I love you. My day is smiling.

    1. Ha, ha, like the way you did that, worked both of my blog posts into one comment. So glad you're having a smiling day!

  2. What a creative use of your assigned words! I enjoyed how you wrote this so much.

  3. Hahahahaha! It was a great post. I'm sitting there nodding. Uh-huh. Uh-huh. and then you hit me with the punch line and I'm laughing! and then it's a GREAT post! Well done, you!

  4. I agree with your comments, but when you ask for something and the other person doesn't reciprocate it may be because they're in a rough place. Knowing you (through your writing) I suspect you give them more than one chance before moving on.

  5. Whew, you had me going right up to the punch line. And now I'm craving Reese's peanut butter cup cookies.

  6. Everything you've been posting lately has looked so good and I can't have any of it. lol

    1. Depending on what your restrictions are, I wonder if some of these recipes can be adjusted to work for you.

    2. Probably. I'm diabetic. So I do low carb and sugar substitute.

  7. Very cleverly done!

    We do love our cars. We invest a lot into them, i even name mine. It's not easy to let go, but there does come a time where it has to be. (As Dave Ramsey says, when he's being witty, women love their cars because we think of them as a really big purse.)

    I do hope you find a good one.

    1. I less thinkof mine as a really big purse, and more a moving boom box.

  8. I like this vulnerable talk on relationships. I love the desserts photos and makes me want to start the brownie making again, would be nice if I had some green sprinkles for st paddy's day.

  9. Also, it reminds me that I bought some makings for cheesecake so maybe I can combine them when I make the brownies. the good thing is that I can share the brownies with my healthcare workers.


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