Friday, September 8, 2023

Free Speech, Expensive Lies


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I honestly never, in this country, thought I would say this, but I am so damn sick of hearing about free speech. Especially in defense of the indefensible. And I don't mean just mean legally, although that is what has become the issue, but morally as well. 

But then morals seem to have gone the way of the dinosaurs, extinct. Or maybe the way of bigfoot, just really, really good at hiding.

Here's the thing, free speech is a right. And a privilege. It is not an excuse. It was never meant to be a green light to deliberately harm others. You cannot just say anything, any time and any place. Ask E. Jean Carroll.

There is a line, and you cannot cross it. If you do, there are consequences (I refer you, again, to E. Jean Carroll). But unfortunately, so many lies have been told, and so publicly, with consequences that either never come, or are so slow in coming that they are after the intended harm has successfully been done, that the flood gates have opened and the lies are flowing.

But, it seems, we are all about to learn a valuable lesson about what is and isn't free speech. Or bear witness to those who use free speech as a pretext to harming others (or harming all of us) learning what we already know.

'Cause it turns out all speech is not free. Some can end up being rather costly.

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And the ability, both morally and legally, to discern between what is and isn't free speech can really be described in one word: maturity.

Since, apparently, a great number of our politicians never achieved that skill, I guess we need to lay it out for them. To avoid jeopardy, legal and/or financial, I thought I'd give the members of a certain political party cult, a quick tutorial. A list of a few infractions they haven't tried but, as they continue to push the confines of the absurd, could well be contemplating:

~ You cannot hide in a congressional bathroom stall, jump out and yell "boo," as people unzip.

~ You cannot walk into a busy restaurant and yell "cockroach." 

~ You cannot tell a flight attendant that you're thinking of hijacking the plane.

~ You cannot chop down your neighbor's tree and tell him that George Washington did it.

~ You cannot tell someone with allergies that there are no peanuts in that cake.

Peanut Butter & Jelly Cake | recipe developed by Karen of
Peanut Butter & Jelly Cake

~ You cannot walk into a colleague's office with a gun and say you're the police requiring a strip search.

~ You cannot walk into an operating room with a knife and say you're a surgeon.

~ You cannot commandeer someone's car, no matter how important you tell them your business is.

Not to end on a negative note, here is something you can say: you can stand up in a court of law and say "I plead guilty." 

{{hint, hint}}

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Peanut Butter & Jelly Cake         

Printable Recipe

6 TBSP crunchy peanut butter
2 TBSP oil
1/3 cup strawberry preserves
1 box strawberry cake mix
1 cup milk
4 eggs

1 1/3 cups powdered sugar
2 TBSP peanut butter
5 tsp milk
2 TBSP strawberry preserves

OPT: peanuts for topping

*Grease and flour a bundt pan. Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
*Whisk together 6 TBSP of the peanut butter, the oil, and 1/3 cup of the strawberry preserves. Add the cake mix, 1 cup of the milk, and the eggs. Beat for 2 minutes.
*Pour evenly into the prepared pan and bake for about 35 minutes, until the top springs back to the touch.
*Allow the cake to sit in the pan for 10 minutes before running a knife around the edges and removing. Cool to room temperature, then place in the refrigerator until cooled completely.
*Whisk together the remaining peanut butter, the remaining milk, and 2/3 cup of the powdered sugar (it will be thick), Drizzle over the top and partially down the sides of the cake. Return to the fridge.
*Whisk together the remaining strawberry preserves, 5 tsp water, and the remaining powdered sugar (this will be thinner). Drizzle over the top and down the sides of the cake. Top with peanuts if desired. Refrigerate to set before slicing.
*Store leftovers in the fridge, bring just barely up to room temperature to serve.


  1. These are some of the best examples of where freedom of speech ends and the public good begins. We are in the most dangerous era of our country, I think, since the Civil War. It's time for some peanut butter and jelly.

  2. I keep wondering what my dad would think of this world only 8 years after he left it. He was the most scrupulously honest man I ever knew. And ran for political office twice.
    I SO wish he was here right now. I'd love 10 minutes of his time!

  3. Your "You cannot" things made me laugh most are just common sense but sadly many now days don't have much common sense.

    1. Agreed. I wroter them jokingly, but with the sad feeling that so many don't seem to know where to draw the line.

  4. I giggled my way through your list. Thanks.

    1. Adding a little humor into what has become a pretty serious subject.

  5. It's like I've told my daughter you have freedom of speech, but not freedom from consequence. So be careful what you say.

    1. Exactly. I used to tell my boys that before they do anything questionable, they need to think about admission. If it's something you might want to lie about later, don't do it.

  6. It's getting insane out there.

    Never say in public or write for print anything you wouldn't be proud to have repeated at your funeral. (That's not to mean things you say or write in private have no consequences, just that there are some things we all would prefer be only between us and that one other special person.)

    1. When I first started blogging and saw some of the things young mothers would say on social media, I would remind myself to put nothimg out there that I wouldn't want my kids to find.

  7. It might be bad now but just go to the twenty-something & under side of social media spots like Twitter &TikTok & take a peek at what's to come from some of the future adults of the world. It can only be hoped that they don't get encouraged to behave IRL like they are online. Cause it'll be ugly.

    1. I've seen both ends of the spectrum from our youth. I've seen some terrifying bigotry and selfishness, but I've also seen young adults who care deeply about their friends, no matter their color, religion or sexual orientation, and some real pride in and concern for democracy. I hope those are the ones who are registered to vote.


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